Its peak winters in Delhi. I enter Select City Walk, and I am treated with dulcet sights. Pretty faces all around, wearing layers of clothing above waist and a hot pant below! I exclaim to myself, ‘Welcome to Delhi’.
It’s not a very rare scenario that we are treated with such sights everywhere around the so called ‘Modern India’. Even in Manipal, it is no surprise to find girls scantily dressed on a Saturday night. I don’t judge them, nor do I mind people in minimal clothes, hell! Walk nude for all I care; but I do mind people judging an ogling eye.
Females label us as ‘Perverts’ for staring at them. Are we really at fault? Now, before I am chastised for the statement let me put forward a few points. It is normal human tendency to seek attention and looks take the top shelf in achieving the same for many. So when a girl goes out in cleavage exposing attire, understandably she wants to be noticed. It is natural for a human to dress in a way that he/she would be noticed most. There is no shame in accepting that. To stretch the fact more, males are genetically designed to look. We are animals who have turned social and our primal instincts forces us to take notice of the opposite sex!
Rape is sick. There is no logical train of thoughts involved. So when the government asks you to cover up, maybe they are right. When I told my fellow workers in the internship, (typical Marathi families) about the Manipal rape, the first comment was, “what the hell was she doing out at 11?” The comment was followed by another who said that while he visited Delhi with his wife, his wife exclaimed looking at a typically dressed young woman, “No wonder rapes happen in this place.”
The female of every species has the right to choose; but then that choice is always subjected to a formal test. The winner of the battle becomes the alpha Lion, the one with most dung gets to nest with the female dung beetle. Humans desire freedom from such rules. We wish to have that choice. What we ignore, is that we do not belong to the idealistic society that has accepted this level of freedom. It is believed that by such presentation the woman means that she is ‘available’. We understand that she is scoping.
‘I believe girls should understand that instead of preaching that “we want to be free”, and flaunting their freedom in ridiculous ways they might as well as just take the basic precautions and not wear clothes that show ridiculously too much. A girl can look pretty without wearing something glaringly less than knee level. We spend too much of our time comparing with other countries; but the facts remain, that social stigma here is different; the way people are, is different. The comparing is taking us nowhere. What actually happens is USA – hell lot of premarital sex, during parties and stuff. The men there are more groomed into the fact that sex is a part of their life. Here we try to pretend it isn’t. Try to deny it. Families train children to think sex as a post martial affair; and hence a large population of men curious and unsure.’
Maybe I am a narrow minded person deluded in a belief to defend my perversions, or maybe it’s a time of change that is causing turbulence in the society. Whatever be it, it is wrong in claiming something as stable as a man’s attraction to a woman to be faulty. So yeah, if I look down upon you (pun intended) do not complain. It is natural and you probably are just being socially sophisticated in denying your approval for same.